Yesterday I came across a quote from Brené Brown when on a PD course that really struck me:
“The opposite of belonging is fitting in”
I thought over those words for a fair amount of time yesterday and marvelled at how simple, yet how astonishingly true they were.
There are times when we don’t want to be seen as different, we want to fit in like everyone else, so we make changes, we alter who we are in order to fit in, in order to assimilate and not stand out. Yet you see, whilst we may ‘fit in’ by doing this, we are not being true to ourselves, this is not belonging.
To belong, I meant to truly belong, is to be ourselves, our true self and to be and feel accepted as such.
No mask, no façade, no wall to protect us.
To be accepted for who we are, our true self, exactly as we are meant to be, this is belonging.
When we strive to fit in – we lose ourselves
When we strive to belong – we find ourselves
To belong can be one of the greatest gifts of all.
When we belong, we have the rare gift of being able to be our true authentic self. Belonging contributes to our overall well-being.
So may we all strive to belong, instead of striving to fit in.
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