Is Love All We Need?

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“Above all things I believe in love. Love is like oxygen. Love is a many-splendored thing. Love lifts us up where we belong. All you need is love!”

-Christian (Ewan McGregor), Moulin Rouge

Hello Lovelies,

Some may say that love is all you need, with love anything is possible, that lover conquers all. I wonder though, is it true? Is love really all we need?

“A girl has got to eat… She’ll end up on the street.”

-Satine (Nicole Kidman), Moulin Rouge

Satine makes a very valid point. To survive in this world we need more than love, we need a home, food, clothing and everything else. However, if you love someone and they love you, whether it be a husband, wife, partner, parent, child… whatever… wouldn’t you make sure that they are cared for in every way possible, because that’s what you do for someone you love, isn’t it?

So back to my original question, is love all we need?

Love is a lot of things, it can be expressed in many different ways but can love in itself give us everything we need?

Let’s just take a moment to define what love is. Can you define love?

It’s not easy is it. To put feelings into words, to describe exactly what love is.

Even if it were, your definition would likely be different to others. From mother to child, from child to father, even from one wife to another their definition of love would not be exactly the same.

I think love is so difficult to define in words because love is better expressed through actions, rather than just words. Of course it is nice to hear the words, “I love you” but remember what they say?

Actions speak louder than words.

So, again back to the question at hand.

Is love all we need?

I’m going to say yes, because love is not in the words, it’s in the actions.

So, yes. Love IS all we need, because when you love someone you do everything in your power to give them all that they need.

Now get out there and SHOW those you love, exactly how much you love them.

Because in the end, Love is all you need.

 

Enjoy,

KK

 

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What’s Love Got to do With it?

Hello Lovelies,

It’s been another interesting week, one that I have filled with exploring (mostly Margaret Island or Margit Sziget in in Hungarian), researching and general ponderings. Oh and let’s not forget the last minute realisation that I forgot to post on the discussion boards of my online unit for uni and had to quickly make up some things to look like I have done all the course work.

One of the main things I’ve been thinking over is love. Not who I love, what I love or anything like that, but just love in general. This line of thought actually began before I left Sydney, when I caught a few snippets of the of the TV mini-series, “Peter Allen; Not the Boy Next Door.” The parts that I caught were showing how Peter met Liza Minnelli and the details of their relationship and marriage. As I sat and watched, I began to wonder if Peter ever loved Liza. From what has been shown in the media and in the musical “The Boy From Oz”, I had little doubt that Peter cared very much for Liza, perhaps he may have been attracted to her at some level (even though he was gay) and perhaps he even loved her, but the problem I think was that Peter was not “in love” with Liza.

You see, there are different types of love. You might love chocolate, your family and your dog but they are not all the same type of love. Love describes the strength of the positive emotion you feel for something or someone, but you do not love chocolate in the same way as you love your mum.

There is also a difference between loving someone and being in love with someone. Whilst Peter Allen probably loved Liza Minnelli and cared for her, he wasn’t in love with her.

Now I’m not about to give relationship advice. However, I am going to try and put into words what I think, feel and believe, based on my experience. I admit that my experience is not extensive, I’ve only ever had one romantic relationship, it wasn’t exactly a plan for it to be like that, it’s just how it worked out, but that’s all I need.

You may have had a relationship in the past that didn’t quite work out. You may have loved that person (or at least thought you did) but ask yourself, were you in love with them? Of course you love the person you choose to marry or spend your life with, but if you are not in love with them, then I don’t think the relationship can be sustained.

You may at this point be wondering exactly how you know whether you simply love someone or whether you are in love with them. How am I supposed to know? I’ve only had one relationship remember! I could tell you that you’ll “just know” or it’ll “just seem right” and sometimes that might be the case, but it’s not always going to help. I’m not going to describe being in love as fireworks or weak knees or some other swooning type of metaphor, because that’s not going to help either. I guess for me it was a little easier, in the beginning it did just “seem right” but I guess you could try looking at your life before that person, your life with them in the present and then try and imagine your future, first with and then without them. If you can’t imagine your future without them, then perhaps it is more than just love.

Being in love isn’t always easy, sometimes you have to fight for it. If you could imagine yourself not fighting and simply walking away, because that’s the easier and safer option, then perhaps you were not really in love with that person (only if the feelings are mutual though, otherwise that’s stalking and there are laws against that crazy-ass sh*!).

So as I go off to ponder the loves of József’s life and the one person he will ever been in love with, remember this:

darkness writer within

Enjoy,

KK

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